Sunday, October 05, 2014

Journey of Bibma: Five Things My Newborn Son has Taught Me

Little Julius has turned 2 months (by calendar) today! This also means I have survived as a first-time mom for 2 months too! (Yay! I'm so proud of myself!)


During these 2 months, Julius has taught me so much, much more than what I have learnt in school the past 18 years - no I'm not 18 years old this year - that's assuming I started nursery at the age of 5 all the way till my graduation from university.

So here are the 5 precious life lessons that I have learnt from him:

Monday, August 25, 2014

Journey of A Bibma: Giving the B(r)e(a)st to Julius

We all know that breast milk is the best milk to give to your baby (and at least for the first 6 months of their lives).

Every mothers will hence naturally want the best for their bubs, and start off with the ideal statement "I want to exclusively breastfeed my child for x number of months" before they give birth. And I was one of them.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

Journey of Bibma: 3 things I wished I was told about Pregnancy & Labour

After a long hiatus, I'm back to share a new journey of my life!

As you may have noticed from my Instagram pictures, I've recently given birth to the most beautiful creature on earth (to me and Labub) - Julius.



Would like to take this opportunity to share my experience and lessons that I've learnt through the little one, which hopefully will give new moms and moms-to-be insights of a new mother-in-training.

So the first post of The Journey of Bibma, I'd like to share things that I had learnt about pregnancy myself but wished that others would have shared with me.

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Neighbourhood Haircut at K1 Salon

Now that my Goddess is preggy, she tends to stay at home/around her neighbourhood even more. So on one of the days that she was clearing leave, she couldn't stand her thick manes (her hair is really thicker than mine) and decided to go for a hair trim.

As she was too lazy to dress up and heavy to go to town, she decided to try a neighbourhood salon to have her haircut. It's going to be cheaper - and how wrong can  you go with a trim to get your hair thinner - or so she thought.

My Goddess also didn't want to go to any salons in Toa Payoh, but a slightly more reputable one. So she googled online for reviews. K1 had some decent mentions on forums, and so there so goes.

True enough, the price is half cheaper than what she usually gets her usual salons in 313. But the saying "you pay peanuts for monkeys" can't be truer.

The service was really horrible. And I'm not even talking about serving water/drinks. The hairdresser Lawrence was so rough. Even though he looked metrosexual or even on the feministic side, he was so rough in handling my Goddess' hair! He pulled her hair at every single cut to the point it was so painful! And the cut that he did was the old school style - my Goddess wanted to trim her hair thinner, so he took the inner layers of the hair and them shorter. So of course her hair will look thinner and lighter when it's all let down. But when she tries to tie them up, the shorter insides will fall out so obviously that it looks like a haircut gone terribly wrong (see picture below and you will get what I mean).

My Goddess opted to have her hair wash and blown too, so having paid extra, she thought he would appreciate it and give her a more tender and better service. Sadly, the water was cold. And when blow drying, the hot air was burning her scalp and ears. And the end result of the blow dry? Her hair was so flat and the ends still all over the place. My Goddess could have done a better job herself!

Super limp and ends messy hair after blow-drying

Only after she tried to change her hair parting did it look slightly better

And see what I mean by the inside strands falling out on the right side of my Goddess. There was also another similar strip on the left side, not visible in this picture.
And her overall verdict - no more neighbourhood salons. She can't take the risk, even if it's for a trim, and would rather pay more and travel farther (probably do it after work or while on half day leave since her office is in town) for a piece (and also peace) of mind.

Monday, March 31, 2014

New Playmate!


Been wanting to announce this last week when my Goddess hits her 20th week, but was just too busy/lazy to get down to it.

I'll be having a new playmate soon!


Thankfully this doesn't mean I get less of her and the Horny Devil's love - my Goddess still looks forward to cuddling me every Saturday, and I still get my weekly massage whenever she's here. Let's hope it stays that way.



Whose photo do you think you are taking!
 And I get to bully and still be manja-ed by the Horny Devil too!


Thursday, October 17, 2013

Married Life

Many people whom I have met have been asking me "How's married life?" My standard reply would be "Like that lor, busy". Both of us hold demanding jobs which requires us to work overtime and over the weekend. We dedicate almost the entire day of the weekend to doing housework, and go back to our parents' place for dinner every weekend, one day each. Whatever free time was spent on working for me, and working or reading engineering books for him. This left us no time to date when we used to - exploring new places, new eateries. I can't even recall when we last caught a movie together.

But upon deeper reflection of how we have come for 2 years after marriage, my answer now is "It's not easy".

It's not easy for 2 persons with different living habits to stay together, and see each other every day. For me especially, I begun to take him for granted very soon. I soon forgot the reasons why I married him and chose to spend the rest of my life with him.

I began to lose sight of myself and of who I used to be. Slowly, I morphed into another person whom I wasn't before - naggy, irritable, picky, someone much worser than my already bad character.

I became self-absorbed, much ironic as it may seem, that we are seeing each other every day. But that's precisely the case that I became to turn a blind eye from seeing the goodness in him. Every little actions that I couldn't see eye to eye to disturbed me.

Such damages to the heart and soul are permanent. And by the time you have realised it, which is usually after a big fight, it would be too late.

Much as you would like to reverse the time, the damage has been done, the soul beaten.

There's a saying that goes "time will heal all wounds". Or will it? Only time can tell.

In the meantime, I can only constantly remind myself to be a bigger and better me, and put aside more time for such important self-reflections so that I can ever be so often reminded, like today, the reason why I got married, and how I should view myself as us instead of me, myself and I.


Thursday, August 08, 2013

Yan Can Cook, So Can You!

If you have been following my Goddess on her Instagram, you would have realised from the numerous food posts that she did, that she has been making home-cooked dishes at least once a week - breakfast, lunch or dinner.

My Goddess has never been a domesticated person. Ask her mom and you will know that she hardly cooks or do housework chores when she's staying with us. The only things that she cooks then were maggi noodles, egg and luncheon meat.

But ever since she has moved in, she has experimented with many different dishes. This is because she has realised the importance of eating in which leads to eating healthy. She also finds it fun to try out new recipes and satisfying that the Horny Devil says it's yum!

Here are the food that she has prepared to date since Day 1 of moving in.